THE BEST WAY OUT IS ALWAYS THROUGH | BAGAN, MYANMAR
“I guess you don’t have acrophobia…” said, a friend of mine.
“No, you are wrong. I am afraid of heights” I was trying to correct the misconception from my friend.
“But I've seen countless of your rooftop photos, so you're saying that you are actually afraid of heights but you still go up on the rooftop?” the same friend quizzically asked.
“Well... that's the whole point of it” I said.
BECAUSE I BELIEVE THAT
"THE BEST WAY OUT IS ALWAYS THROUGH..."
I KEEP THIS OLD SCHOOL OF THOUGHT CLOSE TO HEART THAT...
WE MUST DO THINGS THAT WE FEAR UNTIL THE FEAR OF THAT THING BECOMES NO MORE...
A fear of heights did bother me a lot since I was young. I missed many family trips because I didn't want to get on the airplane. I had to say "no" to the weekend hiking trips invited by my BFFs. I wanted to go to the high school prom night so bad but I didn't go because the event was held up on the 'rooftop'.
As much as I have this fear of heights but the other part of me always wanted to go up there and enjoy a beautiful view just like everyone else. At some points in life, I am tired of having to run away from things I'm curious and passionate about. I am tired of not completely being myself and pretending to be somebody I am not.
I also went through that moment when I wanted to give it all up because I didn't believe that I could deal with it, but here's the thing...
"I WANT TO SEE WHAT HAPPENS IF I DON'T GIVE UP, I WANT TO SEE WHAT COULD EXPERIENCE IF I CONTINUED TRYING..."
Deep down I know that the courage to soar to great heights is inside all of us and now when I reflect back on myself and those years I refused to get on the airplane, the coward side of me is saying... "Oh I wasn't actually afraid of heights, I was afraid of falling down." Thanks, Coward Raj, good to know!
But then Brave Raj would say "I know for a fact that it is a rough road that leads to the heights of greatness", with that note in mind, I am proud of who I am today. I am proud that I have entirely overcome a fear of heights. I am no longer someone who has acrophobia!
As I have been through this uneasy 'life exercise" and the last thing I want is for you to go through what I have been through. And I'm not talking about a fear of heights alone but "fears" in general. Anything that is stopping you from who you want to be, anything that doesn't make you entirely 'happy about yourself and soul" so, I have these very constructive and comprehensive motivational tips and hopefully it would inspire you if you are going through a rough patch in life, or at least you can enjoy the photos I've taken from the hot air balloon from Bagan, Myanmar.
1. FEAR IS LIKE A PARASITE INSIDE OF YOU
The fear inside of us has been in control for too long. Freedom is given to whose who are aware of what the fear makes them do. The parasite feels very threatened by the idea of freedom and of living with conscious awareness.
2. GIVE YOURSELF A PERMISSION TO LIVE THE LIFE YOU WANT
When we have begun to take charge of our lives, to own ourselves, there is no longer any need to ask permission of someone. By taking responsibility for our lives we not only gain control of what happens. It also becomes natural to feel like you deserve more in life as your self-esteem builds and as you do the right thing more consistently. You feel better about yourself.
3. OWN YOUR WAY, YOUR DAY AND YOUR NIGHT
It is critically important. Because it's most often you that are standing in your own way and in the way of your success. It's you that begins to self-sabotage or hold yourself back in subtle or not so subtle ways once you are on your way to the success you dream of.
4. THE RISKIEST THING WE CAN DO IS JUST MAINTAIN THE 'STATUS QUO'
You have to challenge your own status quo before someone else does, and to remove that inner resistance you must feel and think that you actually deserve what you want. You may be able to do a little about that by affirmations and other positive techniques. But the biggest impact by far comes from taking responsibility for yourself and your life. By doing the right thing. To change the status quo is of course not easy but it's a lot of fun and the payoff is massive!
5. LIFE CONSISTS OF EACH DAY
Not just the big events sometimes in the future. So don't forget to take responsibility for the little things today too. Don't postpone it. Taking responsibility for your life can be hard and taxing on you. It's not something you master over the weekend. So you might as well get started on it right now.
6. YOU ARE NOT TRYING TO ESCAPE YOUR LIFE ANYMORE
Instead, you take control, face what's going on and so the world and new options open up for you. Besides, you start taking action not just when you feel like it! Improvement isn't about short spurts once in a while. Consistent action is what really pays off and can help you achieve just about ANYTHING!
7. WE CANNOT USE SOMEONE ELSE'S FIRE, WE CAN ONLY USE OUR OWN
And in order to do that we must first believe that we have it first.
THE SHWEDAGON NIGHT VISIT
Let's go to Myanmar for just 4 days
but feel like having it all... Stay tuned.